Expected Perfection: Assume frustration

I hear so much "I'm a perfectionist" and "I have high expectations" regularly

Those to see themselves as perfectionists aren't perfect.

Things don't always go according to plan, they mess up, they mix up, and they make calculated errors.

That is frustrating.

What else is frustrating? Expecting perfectionism from your students, friends, family, coworkers, and employees.

You are not perfect. And you know that. So when you expect others to be perfect: Complete every homework assignment to a T, participate with enthusiasm, or work in groups without any complaints: It's not going to happen. And that will lead to you to frustration.

We expect a lot out of ourselves and others. We assume an outcome.

When it doesn't happen: we get pissed.

Shift. Set an expectation that there cannot be a set expectation. Go into work knowing you will be flexible and adaptive to how the day unfolds. Be present in conversations and you can more genuinely engage in dialogue to make the situation work out. Things don't go according to plan because we don't know the long term plan. Not really.

We can't control what happens to us or what others choose to do. What we can control is our presence, our awareness, and making the most out of each situation.

Are your students totally disengaged in the lesson? Maybe the lesson is too easy or too hard. Can you get them into partners? Can you let them work independently because they don't need teacher assistance? Can you take them outside to work on the packet or essay?

Being fully present creates fulfillment you couldn't experience unless you were in the moment.

Be present, and expectations will no longer rule your mood.